4 Steps to Overcoming an 'All-Or-Nothing' Mindset




Raise your hand if you've been personally victimized by perfectionism. Any fellow Enneagram 1's out there?


Having a drive to pursue excellence and success can be a great thing, but when it takes a turn for the worse, an "all-or-nothing" mindset can set in and limit us in several ways.


An "all-or-nothing" mindset refers to the idea that if you are going to do something (complete a task, make a change, etc.), you'll either do it perfectly or you'll give up / not try. It's a very black and white way of thinking, with no consideration of the gray area.


This mindset can be rooted in perfectionism, high expectations, people pleasing, or fear of failure. No matter what the cause of it is, it can limit you from reaching your full potential or experiencing greatness. It holds us back.


Here's the thing: We often shy away from the very things that help us grow, learn, and become better.


OOF. Are you guilty?


If you're thinking, "Katey, I don't want to dive head first into something that I could potentially fail at OR don't exactly know how to go about it," then I get it. But if we truly want to achieve our goals and push past barriers, this part is required.


The beauty of your growth is in the process of the ups and downs. The learning is in the gray area.


So how exactly do we overcome such a way of thinking, especially if it is deeply rooted in our belief system?


Start here, friend:


  1. Recognize where that belief came from. Get down to the root of why you have this mindset to begin with. AWARENESS helps you move forward.

  2. Start showing yourself more grace and compassion. Don't expect or require perfection. Aim for progress instead!

  3. Adequately acknowledge your capabilities and small victories in every day. Be proud of what you are able to overcome on a daily basis.

  4. Take it one step at a time. You don't have to have it all figured out at once! Take your time, ask for help, and be willing to learn.


IDK who needs to hear this, but nobody (and nothing) is perfect. That's the beauty of our humanness, so embrace it! Allow yourself to try, fail, pivot, grow, and learn as you move forward.


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